9th June 2020
BEFORE YOU SAY I DO
David Abankwah
READ: Ephesians 5:22-33
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
-Genesis 2:24 | NKJV
In the Garden of Eden, was where the first wedding ceremony was held by God for the marriage of Adam and Eve. The dowry Adam paid for God was his rib that was taken to create Eve. No woman is taken for free. Before you say I do as a man, you need to understand that, dowries are paid to the father of the lady. Today dowries at paid anyhow. Some pay dowries to the mother or the family of the mother of the lady. Because other people are used to represent the biological fathers at the wedding, many dowries are paid into the wrong hands. This is because, many ladies say that their fathers didn’t take care of them when they were kids.
Secondly, before you say I do, you must have worked on your character. Marriage is all about character. I repeat, marriage is all about character. Maybe you didn’t hear me well. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Marriage is all about character. Real beauty doesn’t lie in six-packs, neither does it lie in the shape or breasts of a woman. Real beauty is within. If you are pulchritudinous, and you have bad character, you will marry in June and divorce in August. Singleness is the time you have to work on your character very well otherwise you will ruin your marriage. _Before you say I do as a man, you must have worked on your character of love really well (Ephesians 5:25-33).
As a woman, before you say I do, you must have worked on your character of submission into perfection (Ephesians 5:22-24). Marriage is a tester of character and it shows whether you used your singleness to work on yourself or you were chasing after shadows. Quarrels, misunderstandings, conflicts, and what have you, are normal in marriage because you came from different homes, different values, mindsets, and how you were brought up. Even if God was the one who chose your wife or husband for you, there will be marriage crisis. God who chose Eve for Adam met curses along the path of their marriage, but they never divorced. The onus lies on you to apply love and submission.
If you can’t love one person as a man, then I am afraid you are not yet ready for marriage and if you are a lady and you find submission as a problem, I am afraid you are not ready to say I do. Lastly, before you say I do, it is a must for you to be spiritually matured. Marriage is more spiritual than physical. If you always eat and can’t fast; if you always sleep and can’t pray; if you find Bible reading, studying, and meditation as a problem, then I am afraid you are not ready for marriage. The main purpose why God instituted marriage was salvation (1 Corinthians 7:16). If you don’t have this spiritual vision, then it is better to stay single.
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Lift up prayers for the patience to build the character of love in you as a bachelor and patience to build the character of submission in you as a spinster in the name of Jesus Christ.
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Without love and submission, marriage is on the verge of divorce.
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