28th April 2021
LOVE DETERMINANTS
David Abankwah
(SERIES: Day 8)
…..is not provoked…..
-1 Corinthians 13:5 | NKJV
Love is a composition of so many things. These days many people get the word ‘love’ twisted. They think when they give their bodies to their partners for sex, it means they are proving their love to them. What nonsense is this! Love is not sex, and sex is not love. If you want to know who really loves you, this series is teaching it all. We have been able to go through a few of the things that come together to form love. Today too, we will continue. If someone has been worrying you that he or she loves you, you can assess the person with these testers (love determinants) and see if the person is lusting after you or it is true love. Love is all about actions and not words.
We have love, lust, and infatuation. Someone can say that ‘When I met this woman before I married her, she was not like this oh, but after I married her, she has completely changed from an angel into a demon.’ You thought she loved you, but she was probably lusting after your money, house(s), car(s) or things you had. That is lust. Someone too can say, ‘I have always had the urge to sleep with this guy because looking at his tick tallness, I knew from his stature that, he would be good in bed and that is why I accepted his proposal.’ This is infatuation. Lust and infatuation are influenced by emotions. That’s why after Amnon got his emotions from Tamar, he hated her more.
If you enter a relationship based on emotions, you will regret it for the rest of your life. You have to see the determinants of love I am teaching you about and pay very good attention to them. One of the signs of love is that the person who loves you is slow to anger when you offend him or her. Many times, anger comes out of frustration and continual provocation, but if you have love, you will be able to curb your temper and take things easier without committing sin. If you respond to a mad man according to his madness, everyone will see you like a mad person but in reality you may be a sound person. It is not every provocation that you have to respond to. Apply self-control to overcome anger.
We sometimes see along the roadsides that, speed kills, but anger kills more than that. Cain would not have killed Abel if he had not been angry. He was not having the love that could make him impregnable to provocation. I want to give you an assignment. If you want to know if the person who claims he or she loves you has this trait of love, deliberately provoke him or her and see what comes out of him or her. The feedback will tell you if he or she has love or not. If you don’t have even one of the determinants of love, it means you don’t have love at all. You claim you have love but you are quick tempered. Your anger will drive your loved ones away. Love is not easily provoked.
•| Prayer Diary |•
¹Lift up prayers for divine provocation to do the things of God more mightily and speedily. ²Lift up prayers for deliverance from the nature of sin in you that easily besets you when you are provoked. ³If you are choleric, lift up prayers for the power of God to transform your temperament so you can easily handle carnal provocations. ⁴Lift up prayers against evil forces that provoke you to do evil, causing you to become restless until you have sinned or committed iniquity in the name of Jesus Christ.
Quote
“When a choleric person is in love, he is predisposed to become a phlegmatic person”
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1 Chronicles Chapters 1-2
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